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Okay, nothing (recently) has happened to get me started on this, but it is one of my HUGE pet peeves, so I figured I'd vent and see if anyone shares my ire 
If I ask you to do something or help me with something, please - just say no if you don't want to do it. You're not doing me any favors by agreeing to do it, then welching out.
Example:
I'm moving this weekend. I ask you to help me move; you agree. Moving day rolls around and you are nowhere to be found.
Example 2:
I need a ride somewhere and ask if you'd be willing to come get me and take me to wherever. At the last minute, you can't make it because of XYZ flimsy excuse.
Okay, folks - news flash. It's not going to damage our friendship if you can't help me this one time, for whatever reason. What will piss me off, though, is if I'm counting on you and you don't come through. If I had known you wouldn't be able to help me move, I'd have made other arrangements. If I had known you couldn't give me a ride, I'd have called a cab.
Yes, people promising they'll help and then not following through is a huge, HUGE irritation. Grrr.

If I ask you to do something or help me with something, please - just say no if you don't want to do it. You're not doing me any favors by agreeing to do it, then welching out.
Example:
I'm moving this weekend. I ask you to help me move; you agree. Moving day rolls around and you are nowhere to be found.
Example 2:
I need a ride somewhere and ask if you'd be willing to come get me and take me to wherever. At the last minute, you can't make it because of XYZ flimsy excuse.
Okay, folks - news flash. It's not going to damage our friendship if you can't help me this one time, for whatever reason. What will piss me off, though, is if I'm counting on you and you don't come through. If I had known you wouldn't be able to help me move, I'd have made other arrangements. If I had known you couldn't give me a ride, I'd have called a cab.
Yes, people promising they'll help and then not following through is a huge, HUGE irritation. Grrr.