I agree with you SJC, I worked as a nurse in a nursing home for a year. They are some of the wisest and sweetest people you will ever meet. You can make their day with a hug, a smile, a kind word, holding their hand. They are so appreciative of any kind of verbal communication or affection. I could talk to them for hours. It doesn't take much to make them happy.
After a year I could no longer do it, I am too much of a softie...I know, I know they teach you in nursing school not to get attached but I don't have that type personality. It was too much for me because there was not enough staff to give proper care. As you said SJC some of them *never* had loved ones visit and ached to see them and when I had two off days and returned 9 times out of ten I would have lost one of my patients.
I will never forget when I started their was this elderly African American lady named Rolly and everyone warned me how mean she was. They said she would throw things, hit you, claw you and never talked. Also said she would spit on you. I started by talking to her and I held her hand, then I progressed to rubbing her forehead and then rubbing her arms, legs, feet and back with lotion. I would talk to her the entire time. It only took 2 or 3 weeks and she would give me the biggest smile everytime I entered her room and attempt to talk although I couldn't understand her. I always wondered is some of the aids had been cruel to her. I had my off days and came back, got report to find out she had died while I was off. I cried and cried and resigned. I couldn't do it anymore.
I think when I retire I will visit or see if I can work a couple days a week in a nursing home.