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The Biggest Lie in Publishing History

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The Biggest Lie in Publishing History is the title of a blog post by Michelle Davidson Argyle. It's a catchy title, but Michelle's topic is probably not what you expect. No matter where you are in your publishing journey, I think you'll relate to what Michelle says.

http://theinnocentflower.blogspot.com/2011/06/biggest-lie-in-publishing-history.html
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People really think publishing a book will make them happy?  ???

I think publishing a book will make me money.
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That was quite an emotional roller coaster.  Bordering on TMI... lol.  I don't recall going through any of those stages.  I was just like, "hey, I wanna give this a shot."
Doug Lance said:
I think publishing a book will make me happy.
The issue, I think, is whether we're giving ourselves permission to be miserable in the present while we wait for some future magical moment to transform us into something else. As I commented on the article, as a psychologist, I believe happiness is too important to postpone or allow outside forces to control.

Honestly? Yeah, I was happy when I published my book today. But if you ask my wife and friends, you'll find out I was happy yesterday, and last week, too. (Not so much the week before that. I had a sick bird, and she hadn't gotten better yet. She has now, though, so both of us are back to feeling better!)
I liked that post.

Doug Lance said:
People really think publishing a book will make them happy? ???

I think publishing a book will make me money.
Some people really think that being successful at what they love will make them happy.
Wow - interesting blog. 

Writing makes me happy.
Having my characters say something unexpected and funny makes me happy.  laugh out loud happy
Selling books makes me happy.
Getting paid makes me happy.
Hearing from my readers...okay that's the cherry on top of the whipped cream on top the the caramel/fudge turtle sundae.  I had one reader write me a couple of weeks ago - she has MS and she told me that reading my books takes her out of her life and away from the pain for a while.  Another wrote and told me that she had recently lost quite a few people in life and my books gave her comfort.  It's humbling, it's gratifying and it makes me cry - for joy.

HAPPY!
I think in some ways all of life is the big lie Michelle talks about. People who've perfected the art of enjoying the moment are rare. Most of us,whether writers or not, live our lives waiting for that one big thing we want that, if we can only achieve, we're confident will make us content. But once we get it, the happiness is short-lived. Because now we've got our eye on something even better and it's become the hurdle we have to get over in order to find happiness.  :-\
I remember learning about an interesting experiment in an undergrad psychology course.
Someone tallied the frequencies of mental illness (specifically depression and bipolar disorder) and drug and alcohol abuse among various artsy-types.

It was writers vs. visual artists (painters, etc.) vs. dramatic artists (actors, etc.).

Guess which group had the highest incidents of EVERYTHING? Yep! The writers.  :-\

Shana
Wow, what a very sad post. I feel bad for her. I personally think that perspective has so much to do with happiness. Be happy at what you have and what you have achieved and strive to push the envelope but don't wallow in disappointment - no good comes from that.
It seems to me that she is confusing her terms. In order for it to be a lie, someone has to have told her that was the truth.

Has anyone ever told you any of those things? They haven't me.

I would say that she had deluded herself into thinking that. She's not alone, mind you, and it is rather sad. I've known people who thought they'd be happy when they finished university, got their medical practice, found a boyfriend, got married... Mostly, they were mistaken.

Happiness from an external event is at best short lived.
Keira Lea said:
The Biggest Lie in Publishing History is the title of a blog post by Michelle Davidson Argyle. It's a catchy title, but Michelle's topic is probably not what you expect. No matter where you are in your publishing journey, I think you'll relate to what Michelle says.

http://theinnocentflower.blogspot.com/2011/06/biggest-lie-in-publishing-history.html
Bullc**p is all I can say. I don't look at life from her perspective at all. I am always happy as a rule as long as I have a roof over my head and enough money to buy bread. I work on my darlings, and then send them out. If I make some sales, all well and good; if not, I try harder next time. I have some good friends and enough to get by. What more can one want from life? And I can write.
LiteraryGrrrl said:
I remember learning about an interesting experiment in an undergrad psychology course.
Someone tallied the frequencies of mental illness (specifically depression and bipolar disorder) and drug and alcohol abuse among various artsy-types.

It was writers vs. visual artists (painters, etc.) vs. dramatic artists (actors, etc.).

Guess which group had the highest incidents of EVERYTHING? Yep! The writers. :-\

Shana
There's nothing wrong with my sanity. My characters tell me every night just how sane I am.
G
That was an interesting, emotionally honest blog post. Thanks for sharing.

I remember when I sold my first short story to a magazine. It was a small student run magazine at my university called Leading Edge, and while it was exciting to sign the contract and work with my editor friends on getting it ready to print, there was something...unexpectedly empty about holding the finished copy in my hand. Maybe it was a little too mundane, a little more immenant than I was expecting?

But a couple months later, when I was walking through the Provo Library, I checked out the periodicals and saw the magazine issue with my story in it...and this big grin spread across my face. Perhaps my expectations were a bit more tempered, so that seeing myself in print was a joyful thing, even if it was a semi-pro magazine with a circulation of maybe only 100.

And you know what? Since then, every time I make some kind of breakthrough, even if it's as little as making another sale on Amazon or getting a good review on someone's blog, I immediately want to stand up and do a happy dance. More often than not, I actually do. :) Perhaps that's one of the best things about the new world of publishing: all the old benchmarks are completely gone, so that instead of anxiously waiting for the Big Moment to arrive, you're more focused on the here and now, and any positive momentum (no matter how small) is something to relish.

IMO, no matter what you accomplish, there will always be a bigger mountain on the horizon. The trick is to enjoy the climb just as much as reaching the summit. :)
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JRTomlin said:
It seems to me that she is confusing her terms. In order for it to be a lie, someone has to have told her that was the truth.

Has anyone ever told you any of those things? They haven't me.

I would say that she had deluded herself into thinking that. She's not alone, mind you, and it is rather sad. I've known people who thought they'd be happy when they finished university, got their medical practice, found a boyfriend, got married... Mostly, they were mistaken.

Happiness from an external event is at best short lived.
I've certainly heard nothing of the sort either. My heart broke when I read the blog post but the notion is subjective and happiness should never be dependent on any one factor (of course, easier said than done). I have friends ranging from broke as hell to an actual billionaire, unemployed to working a dream job, etc... and all can tell you that happiness is something you develop and nurture without the influence of external events if you have any hopes of it lasting, as JR said.
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The blog was a nice read, thanks for posting the link.

Having put out my first book, learned lessons along the way. Next one, use a couple beta readers.

Putting out that first book needed to be done. A first step back into the world of entertainment, this time as a writer.

Did it make me happy? Sure, I was pleased it is now out there. Sales aren't the best, the name Casper Parks is not known - yet.

Not regretting having done it, even with the errors. Is it a lasting happiness? Of course not...

It's onward to the next book, and the next, and the next and so-on.

If you fall off the horse, get right-back on. If not, fear will gain a foothold.
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Joe Vasicek said:
That was an interesting, emotionally honest blog post. Thanks for sharing.

I remember when I sold my first short story to a magazine. It was a small student run magazine at my university called Leading Edge, and while it was exciting to sign the contract and work with my editor friends on getting it ready to print, there was something...unexpectedly empty about holding the finished copy in my hand. Maybe it was a little too mundane, a little more immenant than I was expecting?

But a couple months later, when I was walking through the Provo Library, I checked out the periodicals and saw the magazine issue with my story in it...and this big grin spread across my face. Perhaps my expectations were a bit more tempered, so that seeing myself in print was a joyful thing, even if it was a semi-pro magazine with a circulation of maybe only 100.

And you know what? Since then, every time I make some kind of breakthrough, even if it's as little as making another sale on Amazon or getting a good review on someone's blog, I immediately want to stand up and do a happy dance. More often than not, I actually do. :) Perhaps that's one of the best things about the new world of publishing: all the old benchmarks are completely gone, so that instead of anxiously waiting for the Big Moment to arrive, you're more focused on the here and now, and any positive momentum (no matter how small) is something to relish.

IMO, no matter what you accomplish, there will always be a bigger mountain on the horizon. The trick is to enjoy the climb just as much as reaching the summit. :)
Excellent post. My bolds are what I like most about it.
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